All of us do face challenges in life regardless of all the smiles we post on social media. It's no secret.
That's just how life is.
During my quick lunch or tea break dates with my husband on weekdays, we share a lot of things going on in our lives. That includes work, family and of course our children. We have a very open communication and always agree to disagree. Or agree to really disagree.
The reason why we practice this is because we are each other's confidante. If we can't agree to disagree then it is pointless to share and probably as time passes by, there will be lesser things to talk.
One of the things we always contemplate between us was how challenging it was to get married. How challenging it was that we had a house and a child very quickly. How our lives change with a blink of an eye when my dad left us and the dynamics of family change again. And then we were blessed and tested with another baby. We were always trying to manage how to operate productively.
Over the time, we got better financially. We handled the children better. Career and business ideas were progressive.
Then we are now blessed with our third baby probably when Riduan was only 7 months.
How do we operate now?
Challenges at work also hit us head on for the two of us. Needing to bring home the bread and butter, we are each other's advisors to manage situations better. While Alfi is very protective by nature and always teach me the fine characters to carry myself well in the office, I deem myself as his 'First Lady'. I never fail to attend his company gatherings, engage everyone and after that share my thoughts of his colleagues and subordinates.
Life being married is different. Life as a mother is different. My priorities change and took a 180-degree turn.
Some may understand. Of course many do not. Some assume and some give us a real good (sarcasm for tough) time. Some paint pictures which are false and some really put oil to fire.
Whatever the situation, I do not retaliate. Maybe a mere 20-30 percent only to stand up for myself a little. But most times I avoid those people. I refuse to engage. I will never bring myself down to that level.
In times like this, I raise my two hands and seek from Him to protect my family. Give us health and berkat rezeki. I pray for my marriage. I pray for my husband and his future. I pray for my family.
Then I pray for myself.
Today, I made a mental note that I will never forget the things I go through over the past few years. I will not make myself forget. These are valuable lessons. Something that schools will never teach you. I will not forget the people who give me a hard time when I least needed it because it serves me as a reminder how nasty people can get.
There was a saying. Forgive and forget.
I forgive. Most times I do.
But never once will I forget.
Insya Allah in time the wheel will come back up for me. I have faith.
But my life experiences will always remind me what I have been through and make me stay grounded.
This is life. All of us were promised to be tested.
It is a mad world.
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