I would like to empty my thoughts on a topic which many people would judge
Wedding and dowry

The reason why i am bringing this up is because now that i am of a marriagable age.
People have certain expectations of how my wedding should be like
And i see people talking about other people's wedding.
First question: Who is his/her spouse?
Next: What is he/she working as?
Then: Hantaran braper?

Tell me is there any wedding that got spared from this question?

I have relatives coming up to me saying that i am going to need a rich man as my husband.
That the way they look at it is that I am going to ask 20K for my wedding
And hold my wedding in a grand place
The thing is who wouldn't want such?
I wanted a Fullerton wedding with 13k hantaran. Dun ask me why 13K.
1 carat diamond ring.

But i hate it when people talk and THEY THEMSELVES SET the expectations for me..
The way they say it sometimes is like they really want to see whether i am able to get it or not
I do get pissed when they mention it to me
I have heard so many of such things since a couple of years ago.
Thing is I DON'T NEED PEOPLE TO SET THESE EXPECTATIONS FOR ME.
Don't tell me how much they think i might get
Don't tell me where i am going to hold my wedding
Don't tell me that i would only want to look for a rich man

Look..
Every woman would like to have a rich man
Cos they can have GUCCI, LOUIE VUITTON, COACH, MONT BLANC ETC ETC
So do i. I wish i could marry a tycoon. Where money will never be an issue.
I can ask for 100K for my hantaran and i can give half to my parents who supported my education, have my wedding at fullerton for 500 guests cos that is the max the ballroom can hold, stay in the honeymoon suite that is $1500 per night for a week, travel 50% of States for my honeymoon only to shop.
All women including me and YOU fantasize to have a rich man..
And trust me, i will go for my facelifts and botox and liposuction and breast augmentation and butt lift and bone elongation.
But the thing is that lets look at the environment that we are staying in
how many rich men are there here in Singapore?
And how many of these rich men are malay and single and successful?
So chances of us marrying a rich man is probably only 5%.
So lets forget about it

Quit judging a man by the amount of hantaran he will give.
Quit judging a woman by the amount of hantaran she receives.
Quit judging a woman by how beautiful she looks.
Quit judging a marriage by the place where the wedding is going to be held.
At the end of the day, the marriage is between husband and wife.
At the end of the day, the marriage is not yours to bother.

A man can give 15 or 20K for the hantaran but that doesn't make him a good man.
He can give his wife all the luxuries in life but that may not make him a good husband
Happiness is subjective. Up to one's individual.
Be happy for people who are happy and be there for people who are sad.
I've had men whom i dated who gave my luxuries which i couldn't get on my own. But at the end of the day i was cheated by him.
I've had men who promises me the sun and the moon and the universe but still got cheated in the end.
So lets not measure a man with WHAT material things they can give us.

Don't think or give the excuse that i am born with a silver spoon and that i should be getting what YOU think i should be getting.
I have a normal life.
I know people who are born with a silver spoon.
How can i compare to those who have houses built for them, maids provided for them and their children, businesses given to them to me?
My life is nothing.
I find my own money. I work hard to spend.
Yes i want a rich man not because people think i should get a rich man but because i want a good life.
But let's see if luck is on my side.

And yes, i will put a price to my hantaran.
And i will hold my wedding the best place i can.
But the priority of these will be my family.
I will think of my family when i decide on these two things.
So keep your opinions on how my wedding should be to youself.